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gaywrites:

Facebook made serious waves in the LGBT world a couple months back when it introduced 50 custom gender options expanding beyond the binary of “male” and “female.” Now, Facebook UK has build on this concept, with 70 custom gender options available to users. 

Like with the US version of this feature, Facebook users can keep their gender identities as private as they like, customizing the audiences who can see their gender selection, and can choose multiple identifiers. Users can also choose to appear with the gender-neutral pronoun “they” in others’ newsfeeds if desired.

Today’s announcement indicates that U.K. users will have at least 20 more gender options than the 50 originally introduced to U.S. users, including “intersex man,” “intersex woman,” and “asexual,” reports The Independent.

"By challenging the gender binary, Facebook will finally allow thousands of people to describe themselves as they are now and it will allow a future generation of kids to become truly comfortable in their own skins," Press for Change’s vice president, Professor Stephen Whittle, told The Independent.

Like the US version, this is admittedly imperfect — asexual is obviously not a gender identity, but presumably can be chosen alongside an identifier that is — but it’s still a pretty great development. UK friends, let me know how you like it! 

neutrois

My Transition: Testosterone

eurydice-in-lethe

Closer and closer to full acceptance

eurydice-in-lethe:

My mother found a photography project online that features agendered individuals. She called me into the office to show it to me because she thought of me. It’s been a long journey to getting her to accept my gender, but tonight was a key moment in that acceptance. It’s really the little things that matter most.

Love this. A reminder of how important these articles are and why I agree to be in them.

But for transgender and gender non-conforming people like myself, the question of what to wear to work becomes an exhausting question of identity and of survival. For us, the question changes from “how do I present my best self at work?” to “can I present my best self at work?”

Ci sono persone che non si sentono né maschi, né femmine. Passano vite intere a cercare di affermare la loro identità. Il loro problema? Una società che ragiona con un sistema binario. La storia di Micah e le foto di Chloe

My story featured in Vanity Fair Italy as part of Chloe Aftel’s #Agender photo project. 

 I’ve wanted for some time to have one place to send everyone who complains about singular they, a single page that can debunk whatever junk they’re peddling against it…. Without further ado, here’s the evidence for singular they, and why you ought to stop “correcting” it.

Another article on the photography series by Chloe Aftel profiling non-binary people (including myself!), on Refinery29.

While it’s not an ideal source of knowledge on this topic, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) has shifted its understanding of a trans* identity from “gender identity disorder” to the slightly more sensitive “gender dysphoria,” which is defined as “the condition of feeling one’s emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one’s biological sex.” But, for many people, gender identity is not fixed or limited to “male” vs. “female.” 

Some of Aftel’s subjects identify as gender-fluid (with a fluctuating gender identity), some as gender-queer (a more general term for any gender identity other than “male” or “female”), and some as agender (those who do not identify with any gender). Aftel describes her subjects as “very sure of themselves, and with a certain level of contentment living in the way that really feels honest and best to them.”

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policymic:

Intimate photos of agender youth challenge society’s gender norms

"I think a lot of people like to see gender as this scale of blue and pink," Emma, a 20-year-old college student, told the magazine. "I never really identified with either side of that, or even in between blue and pink. It’s so much more complicated — my identity varies so much on any given day. Sometimes I tell people I’m gold or something."

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I appreciate that it includes a bit from the original article, which clarifies:

"This growing community encompasses people who see themselves as agender (neither male nor female), bi-gender (both genders) and gender-fluid (shifting from male to female)."

theartoftransliness

Anonymous asked:

Hi, so, I've been having trouble defining myself lately. I go from genderqueer to transgender, but I get sorta nervous labelling myself as trans because I hear a lot of stuff about 'Trans imposters' and the 'I've ALWAYS been SO SURE of..' and help?

theartoftransliness answered:

Zak: We regularly get questions like this, so you are 100% not alone in feeling this way. Things aren’t crystal clear for some people from an early age. Yes, that’s the case for some people (for instance some of Adrian’s earliest memories involve feeling very strongly that he was male). For others, though, it can take a long time to figure things out and there can be points of confusion, doubt, and uncertainty. That’s how it was for me. I didn’t figure out I was trans until I was 18, and I spent quite a while going between considering myself to be genderqueer vs male. I also took a couple of years to decide to take testosterone, and that was a really difficult decision for me. Now, I don’t deal with confusion or doubt really at all and I’m comfortable with my identity and happy with the decisions I’ve made. I think it’s important for people in our position to really do their research and think things through. However, I think it can be hard to trust ourselves because the dominant trans narrative assumes that there should be no confusion and that if you didn’t know you were trans at age 6 than you’re really doing it wrong (so to speak). Anyway, I’d say don’t worry too much about what other people think (vis-a-vis being a “transtrender” or what-not). Trust yourself, listen to yourself, and give yourself the mental space and time to figure things out. Don’t feel pressured to be completely sure of your identity right away. For some people it takes some thinking, some research, talking it out, and some experimentation (for instance, trying going out dressed a certain way or going by a different name and pronouns online for a bit). This is a long answer, but I just want you to know that it’s okay to question, it’s okay not to know! You’ll eventually figure things out.

In my journey, there was a distinct period in which I was “considering” being transgender. I wasn’t sure about a lot of things: what being transgender meant, how transgender people felt, whether that was similar to how I felt, whether I was trans, and in my case, whether feeling not-male-not-female “qualified” me to be trans.

I’ll echo what Zak said with an excerpt from one of my posts titled “Finding Yourself”:

People are in constant flux. We age, we grow, we buy clothes, we change jobs, we move houses, we make families – you never really know what lies ahead.

We all have many identities – gender being just one of them – which are forever evolving.

Not everyone is sure of their gender identity, now or ever – even those with binary-gendered identities. Often it’s more of a matter of unlearning all the stuff you grew up believing in your entire life, and building something new, and scary, and unknown.

Give yourself room and space and time to explore gender and what it means to you.

Someone on the non-binary spectrum emailed me looking for resources on how to navigate their professional life, specifically in a conservative job environment where gender comes with certain expectations.

Constantly policing your presentation, as I’m sure you know, is not fun. I’m still young enough to hope there’s a way to live with my gender that’s more authentic and more sustainable, without getting me fired.

Do you just suck it up? What are the compromises one has to make? Where is the balance?