Anonymous asked:

Do you have any resources for a amab with an androgynous identity who wants to medically transition to a neutral body? Ive seen lots of stories from afab and people acknowlege the existence of amab but i cant seem to find anything and its making me feel a little isolated. I just want to find one amab who successfully transitioned to neutral so i know its possible

lifeoutsidethebinary-queries answered:

followers, help out please!

I wrote a primer on MTN transition here, and am open to answering any questions.

Any followers who fall into this category and wish to make themselves available as a resource?


Anonymous asked:

Hi, I've been identifying as agender for a few years, but have always been a bit confused about the difference between agender and neutrois. I consider myself as without a gender, but I experience strong dysphoria concerning genitalia. Essentially, I would feel better if nothing were there. Somewhat like a mannequin. Reading your definitions, it seems like neutrois is basically agender with dysphoria? Is that what I am?

haveagaydayorg answered:

I wasn’t sure of the answer to this, so I reached out to Micah, at

 What’s the difference between agender and neutrois?

The definitions i’ve found don’t really make a clear distinction.
with Neutrois being “a neutral third gender; genderless, no gender identity, similar to agender; sometimes defined as a specific kind of genderless identity, including the experience of physical dysphoria.”
and agender being “a gender identity (or lack of a gender identity) meaning genderless, non-gendered”

The difference can’t be presence of dysphoria, can it?
There are many opinions on this matter. Some agender people feel neutrois describes them as well, some do not. Some agender people feel genderless or that they do not have a gender, others feel more gender-neutral or a third gender all together. Either can be accompanied by dysphoria - physical, social, otherwise - or not.
It really comes down to personal preference and personal application of the terms. So the best you can do is ask the person how they identify and what that means to them. If this is a question you are asking for yourself, I’d say choose the word that best resonates with you.

I hope this helps.

Couldn’t have said it better myself :P





Breaking News: Water is wet!

After the first donation to the Transgender Law Center (TLC), TLC told the company that college campuses need signs like these. So now, not only is creating these gender-inclusive signs, but they are also donating them to interested college campuses for free. 

Smart marketing for a good cause!



the obama administration says this will be handled on a case-by-case basis. so NB U.S. citizens - if you are able and wishing to do so, consider now attempting to apply to change your legal sex marker to an X! if they really are willing to consider it, perhaps someone will be the first ever legal recognized nonbinary person in the U.S.!

we believe proposals to change when and how gender is listed on official documents should be considered on a case-by-case basis by the affected federal and state agencies. However, that consideration must be informed by best practices and a commitment to honoring individuality and ensuring fairness.”

I think it would necessitate a strong and lengthy legal case and a brave individual to put themselves out there and advocate for a non-binary gender marker. The door has been cracked open to the possibility. 



No matter where I go in this nation to train on trans inclusion, whether it is the Midwest to the coast, the main concern always, ALWAYS brought up are restrooms (and locker rooms). I for now on will just show this video and then do education on how their attempts to make a joke of it, just isn’t funny it makes them look silly. Way to go Illinois State University!

Journalist looking to interview a non-binary person in non-urban area

Last week I had a lovely conversation with a journalist from the Washington Post who is looking to interview non-binary identified people in non-urban areas in the US. It sounds like she’s doing lots of research beforehand and taking a personalized approach.

If you’re interested, please get in touch. 

Details below:

I’m interested in doing a story about people who do not identify as male or female – who prefer gender neutral pronouns and physical presentations. My hope is to be able to give an honest, accurate representation of what it’s like, in 2014, to be a gender neutral person in a world that is still set up for binary genders. I’m interested in people who do not live in urban areas like New York or San Francisco, and are not necessarily visible activists.

I’m interested in ordinary people living their lives in more rural parts of the country, who are willing to let me spend time with them. I want to be sensitive to privacy issues, and am willing to be open to discussions of anonymity or omitting identifying details from my reporting.

My email address is It might be easiest for people who are interested to email first and tell me a little bit about themselves, and we can go from there.